Is Your Aging Parent Safe at Home?

I am concerned about the safety of my elderly parent who lives alone in another state. Are there simple, affordable ways to make sure that my parent is safe?

Adult children with parents who live alone are often concerned about their parents’ safety. Fortunately, there are several free or low-cost ways to stay connected and gain peace of mind without infringing on a parent’s independence. Here are some options to consider.

Check-In App

If your parent uses a smartphone, a simple solution is to download a free app that checks in daily to confirm that your parent is okay. These apps are often used by older adults who live alone and want their loved ones alerted if something goes wrong. To find these helpful apps, check your preferred app store and search for terms like “safety check-in.”

These apps often work by having your parent select a daily check-in time. The app will then send several reminders leading up to that time, prompting your parent to confirm that he or she is okay by tapping the screen. If your parent does not check in within a specified time frame after their scheduled time, the app alerts their emergency contacts. Some apps also have location sharing abilities.

For added peace of mind, these apps may also offer paid plans that include additional daily check-ins. If a check-in is missed, these apps can call to see if your parent is okay. If there is still no response, the app can request an in-person wellness check by local authorities, who will visit your parent’s home to make sure they are safe.

Check-In Calls

If your parent does not use a smartphone, a daily check-in call program can provide similar reassurance. Many police or sheriff’s departments nationwide offer telephone reassurance programs, often free of charge.

Generally, an automated system makes a call at a set time each day. If your parent answers, no further action is needed. If they do not pick up after repeated attempts or the call goes to voicemail, their emergency contact is notified. If that contact cannot be reached, backup contacts are called. As a last resort, local police or emergency services may be dispatched to the home.

To check if this service is available in your parent’s community, call their local police department’s nonemergency number or the Area Agency on Aging at 800-677-1116. If no local program exists, private companies offer similar services for a monthly fee.

Technology Aids

You might also consider simple home technology to enhance your parent’s safety. Monitored medical alert systems are among the most common options available. These include wearable “help buttons,” some of which feature fall detection capabilities, enabling your parent to request assistance at any time while simultaneously alerting you. The typical cost for these systems is approximately $1 per day.

Other options include motion or contact sensors placed around the residence to monitor daily routines and inform you of any unusual activity. You may also consider a small camera with night vision, motion detection and two-way audio, which lets you visually check in and speak directly with them. Basic sensors and cameras may be available for less than $35. However, these devices require Wi-Fi connectivity and may raise privacy concerns. Therefore, it is important to discuss them with your parent prior to using them.

While no solution can eliminate every risk, these tools can provide meaningful peace of mind, for both you and your parent while also preserving their independence.

Savvy Living is written by Jim Miller, a regular contributor to the NBC Today Show and author of "The Savvy Living” book. Any links in this article are offered as a service and there is no endorsement of any product. These articles are offered as a helpful and informative service to our friends and may not always reflect this organization’s official position on some topics. Jim invites you to send your senior questions to: Savvy Living, P.O. Box 5443, Norman, OK 73070.